Who are you and what do you want?

Woman. 30s. Mother. Wife. Suburbs. Metropolitan Ontario, Canada.

Religious (Christian) but not fully practicing – slightly confused but figuring it out. Semi-crunchy, low/med tox. aspiring tradwife, recovering hyper-independent woman. Eldest daughter. ADHD. Oh, and first generation Asian-Canadian.

If any of the above resonates with you, stick around because as I’ve learned, context is so important. When you find a mentor, blogger, influencer, etc that has a similar world-view or struggles as you, the solutions they propose make much more sense. Don’t waste too much time being nosey about what Charlotte or Rhys has to say, because odds are, there will be reasons down the road where it just doesn’t apply (trust me, I have been influenced many a time by these women and have wasted so many dollars). I have so much to say and not enough people to say things to in my circles, so I say welcome to you, dear reader, I get you.

I want so much more colour for my life than I have been set up to have – I have a non-spicy, traditional upbringing; typical of a first generation Filipina-Canadian. I excelled in school, developed great relationships with teachers and other parents, was a well rounded student, popular enough, never in trouble with the law, got into uni, failed out of my program once but still graduated within 5 years, got a big girl job, got married, had kids, and basically followed the blueprint for success that my parents migrated to this country for yet here I am in my early 30s wanting to throw my vanilla career away and reestablish myself taking the route people like me are apprehensive to take; to go against the wishes and dreams our parents had for us and make a living doing whatever the hell I want to do. *gasp*

I recently learned that being vulnerable, harnessing and expressing self-confidence, and speaking your truth publicly (even though no one has asked) can garner you a whole full-time income making real money on the internet. I’m taking my own stab at it on Instagram. I’ve talked to numerous people who have debunked all my doubts and have successfully ditched their 9-5, said goodbye to corporate climbing, said later days to bosses, raises, performance reviews, SLAs, and peace out to 15 paid vacation days, 3 sick days, and 5 personal days per year. I am absolutely done with being tethered to the demands of western capitalism in the way we were brought up to live in it and am so revved up and hungry to make this alt life work for me and my family so that I can be a present mother and wife, help provide supplementary income, and allow myself opportunities to grow, create, write, learn, and share with other adults, all on my own terms.

With all the must-do bucket list items crossed off my parent’s bucket list for my life, I’m ready to veer left and create a space to share my best tips and tricks, must haves, don’t bother buys, stories, insight, and heart with you all!

Here we go!!